Sunday, 30 April 2006

Salam laki perempuan. Ok ke tak ok?

Samada di Malaysia atau di UK sama sahaja. Bersalam lelaki perempuan menjadi satu kebiasaan dan satu budaya di dalam masyarakat. Namun demikian, apakah budaya ini diterima Islam.

Berdasarkan pengalaman dan pengamatanku, orang Islam sendiri masih tidak faham tentang perkara ini. Kita harus bersangka baik, mungkin mereka tidak tahu.

Dalam kesempatan ini, aku ingin berkongsi pengalaman di UK ini. Biasanya aku dengar2 sahaja orang kata kalau kita firm dengan pengangan kita orang akan respek. Kali ini biar aku cerita dari pengalaman aku sendiri pula. Lebih kurang sebulan yang lepas aku mengambil keputusan untuk membuka akaun bank Islam di Llyods dan orang yang bertugas untuk menguruskan proses membuka akaun itu adalah seorang perempuan British (Indian descendant) bukan Islam. Ketika kami bertemu, dia menghulurkan tangan sebagaimana biasa. Satu saat-sat pertama, aku hampir bersalam, namun setelah beberapa detik, aku gagahkan diri ini dan memberanikan diri dan berkata "Sorry, I dont..." sambil menunjukkan isyarat tangan tak mahu salam. Beliau tersenyum dan berkata "It's all right". Kami menuju ke bilik untuk meruskan urusan. Sekali lagi dia bertanya "So you dont shake hand with women yeah?" Dan aku membalas" Yup, sorry". Dia tersenyum sekali lagi. Alhamdulillah, dia dapat memahami dan menghormati pegangan aku sebagai orang Islam. Setelah itu, kami pun meneruskan urusan dan proses buka akaun berjalan dengan lancar dan beliau memberikan layanan yang mesra walaupun aku tidak bersalam dengan dia pada mulanya.

Sebagai panduan, di sini disertakan satu petikan dalam bahasa Inggeris untuk menjelaskan kekusutan di kepala ini.

Question :

I would like a detailed answer on the ruling on a man shaking hands with a woman, and the views of the four imams and the majority of scholars on that.

Bismillah Rahman Raheem (In the Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Most Beneficient)

Salam alaykum: (Peace be unto all who seek truth and guidance)

Answer :
- Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:
It is not permissible for a man who believes in Allaah and His Messenger to put his hand in the hand of a women who is not permissible for him or who is not one of his mahrams. Whoever does that has wronged himself (i.e., sinned).

It was narrated that Ma'qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him." Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami', 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh.

This hadeeth alone is sufficient to deter and to instill the obedience required of us by Allaah, because it implies that touching women may lead to temptation and immorality. It was narrated that 'Aa'ishah the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "When the believing women migrated to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), they would be tested in accordance with the words of Allaah (interpretation of
the meaning):

'O Prophet! When believing women come to you to give you the Bay'ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allaah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse' [al-Mumtahanah 60:12]

'Aa'ishah said: Whoever among the believing women agreed to that had passed the test, and when the women agreed to that, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to them: "Go, for you have given your oath of allegiance.' No, by Allaah, the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman, rather they would give their oath of allegiance with words only." And 'Aa'ishah said: "By Allaah, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) only took the oath of allegiance from the women in the manner prescribed by Allaah, and the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman. When he had taken their oath of allegiance he would say, 'I have accepted your oath of allegiance verbally.'" (narrated by Muslim, 1866)

It was narrated from 'Urwah that 'Aa'ishah told him about the women's oath of allegiance: "The
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched any woman with his hand. He would explain to the woman what the oath of allegiance implied, and when she
accepted, he would say 'Go, for you have given your oath of allegiance.'" Narrated by Muslim, 1866

This infallible one, the best of mankind, the leader of the sons of Adam on the Day of Resurrection, did not touch women. This is despite the fact that the oath of allegiance was originally given by hand. So how about men other than the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)?

It was narrated that Umaymah the daughter of Raqeeqah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, "I do not shake hands with women."
Narrated by al-Nasaa'i (4181) and Ibn Maajah, 2874; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al- Jaami', 2513.


Secondly:
It is not permissible to shake hands even with a barrier in between, such as shaking hands from
beneath a garment and the like. The hadeeth that was narrated allowing that is da'eef (weak).
It was narrated from Ma'qal ibn Yassaar that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to shake hands with women from beneath a garment."
Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Awsat, 2855.

Al-Haythami said:
This was narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer and al-Awsat. Its isnaad includes 'Ataab ibn Harb, who is da'eef (weak).
Majma' al-Zawaa'id, 6/39.

Wali al-Deen al-'Iraaqi said:
The words of 'Aa'ishah, "He used to accept the women's oath of allegiance by words only" mean
that he did so without taking their hands or shaking hands with them. This indicates that the bay'ah of men was accepted by taking their hands and shaking hands with them, as well as by words, and this is how it was. What 'Aa'ishah mentioned was the custom.

Some of the mufassireen mentioned that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) called for a vessel of water and dipped his hand in it, then the women dipped their hands in it. And some of them said that he did not shake hands with them from behind a barrier and had a Qatari cloak over his hand. And it was said that 'Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) shook hands with them on his behalf. None of these reports are sound, especially the last one, How could 'Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) have done something that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who was ma'soom (infallible), would not do?
Tarh al-Tathreeb, 7/45

Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The most correct view is that this (i.e., shaking hands with women from behind a barrier) is not
allowed at all, because of the general meaning of the hadeeth, according to which the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, "I do not shake hands with women;" and so as
to ward off the means that may lead to evil.

(Adapted from Hashiyat Majmoo'at Rasaa'il fi'l-Hijaab wa'l-Sufoor, p. 69)
The same ruling applies to shaking hands with old women; this is also haraam because of the
general meaning of the texts on this issue. The reports that say it is permissible are da'eef (weak).

Al-Zayla'i said:
"As for the report that 'Abu Bakr used to shake hands with old women, it is also ghareeb."
(Nasab al-Raayah, 4/240)

Ibn Hajar said:
I cannot find this hadeeth.
(al-Diraayah fi Takhreej Ahaadeeth al-Hidaayah, 2/225)

Fourthly:
With regard to the views of the four imams, they are as follows:

1 - The Hanafi madhhab:
Ibn Nujaym said:
It is not permissible for a man to touch a woman's face or hands even if there is no risk of desire
because it is haraam in principle and there is no necessity that would allow it.
Al-Bahr al-Raa'iq, 8/219

2 - The Maaliki madhhab:
Muhammad ibn Ahmad ('Ulaysh) said:
It is not permissible for a man to touch the face or hand of a non-mahram woman, and it is not
permissible for him to put his hand on hers without a barrier. 'Aa'ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: "The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never accepted a woman's oath of allegiance by shaking hands with her; rather he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to accept their oath of allegiance by words only." According to another report, "His hand never touched the hand of a woman, rather he would accept their oath of allegiance by words only."
(Manh al-Jaleel Sharh Mukhtasar Khaleel, 1/223)

3 - The Shaafa'i madhhab:
Al-Nawawi said:
It is not permissible to touch a woman in any way.
Al-Majmoo', 4/515.

Wali al-Deen al-'Iraaqi said:
This indicates that the hand of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not
touch the hand of any woman apart from his wives and concubines, whether in the case of
accepting the oath of allegiance or in other cases. If he did not do that despite the fact that he was infallible and beyond suspicion, then it is even more essential that others heed this prohibition. It appears from the texts that he refrained from doing that because it was haraam for him to do so.

The fuqaha' among our companions and others said that it is haraam to touch a non-mahram
woman even if that is not touching parts of her body that are not 'awrah, such as her face. But
they differed with regard to looking when there is no desire and no fear of fitnah. The prohibition on touching is stronger than the prohibition on looking, and it is haraam when there is no necessity that would allow it. If it is the case of necessity, e.g. medical treatment, removing a tooth or treating the eyes, etc., if there is no woman who can do that, then it is permissible for a nonmahram to do that because it is the case of necessity.
Tarh al-Tathreeb, 7/45, 46

4 - The Hanbali madhhab
Ibn Muflih said:
Abu 'Abd-Allaah - i.e., Imam Ahmad - was asked about a man who shakes hands with a woman.
He said, No, and was emphatic that it is haraam. I said, Should he shake hands with her from
beneath his garment? He said, No.
Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen also favoured the view that it is prohibited, and gave the reason that
touching is more serious than looking.
AlAdaab al-Shar'iyyah, 2/257
And Allaah knows best.
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Friday, 28 April 2006

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Nak digital camera!!! Marilah mencuba. Klik link ini untuk mendapatkannya. Dah banyak kali aku dapat benda ni, tapi sebab Azmil Khalili yang kasik, aku pun layan aah.

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Wednesday, 26 April 2006

I love Archery

Tiba-tiba terasa nak post gambar ni pulak. Dah dekat 2 bulan tak tarik bow. Terasa bosan lak. Gambar kat atas tu masa zaman sekolah. Last archery competition zaman sekolah. Gambar sekarang tak ader sebab tak ade orang leh tolong amikkan.

Sunday, 23 April 2006

The changing world


Photo taken from wwwchangetheworld.org

The world always change. It never stays static. We have learnt from the history of human civilisation that human had change from living in the cave or on tree to in the houses built from wood or stone and nowadays human lives in skyscrapers.

The age we are living right now is electronic age. We can see the world is changing faster at this age. Within 22 years living in this world, I saw many new technology introduced. When I was 4, I used to watch Pink Panther using video cassette. Then about 11 or earlier than that, video cassette became obsolete and replaced by CD's and then DVD's. At 18, MP3 player and Digicam became hot stuff. The latest, IPod leads MP3 player market.

With advancement in communication and transportation system, the world has become 'smaller'. We can travel around the world easier and you don't feel home sick so much because you can call your home whenever you want.

Despite of many positive changes happen in our life, there are many negative changes happen in our life as well. Animal, plant, culture and language extinction threat is quite serious in certain places. Global warming become more significant due to the ice in poles melted. Rising rate of crime, suicide, child abortion, abuse and many more. The teenage does not respect the elderly and free mixing.Opression by the people in power, war in the middle east, human right abuse and media bias. Cost of living rises due to many factor especially due to the oil price rises.

These problems is not good for health! It makes our life feel miserable. But we can't just complain. We must change. To see the world changes to a better world, we must change ourselves in the first place. I believe the best way to change is by following the Islamic principle because Islam is not just a belief system, it is a way of life. It is suitable in anywhere any anytime . So, let us change ourselves!!

Wednesday, 19 April 2006

The power of labeling people


Terrorist, Liberal, Conservative, Socialist and Islamist are common words we can find in newspapers headlines.

Labeling people is normal in our life especially by the Media. I think people tend to label others because we love to judge other people. Sometimes it is used because it is easy to describe or classify something/someone.

When someone says a person is Liberal, automatically will think that person favours change in political and social matters and dont like to be restricted. While terrorist, is a person who cause trouble, disaster and chaos to the public.

Labeling people influence others perception. It makes a bad product looks good and good looks bad. If you use wrong label, ones feeling might hurt.

Why somone use wrong label? The reason can be with intention or without intention. Someone might use it in improper way because he does not understand the real meaning of the label used.

That is what I think about labeling and the power of labeling.

Thursday, 6 April 2006

Achtung, Eingang & Ausgang

Those are few words I learnt in Germany last week. I joined a trip to Germany organised by my friend in Nottingham, Rozaen in a group of three which includes me, Roz and Fikri.

We went to Neumberg, Meunchen and Rosenheim. These three places are in Bayern. We also managed to visit Sazlburg in Austria.

Most of our time were spent in the train. The first day and last day we spent almost the whole day to travel from Frankfurt Hahn to Numberg (vice versa). Everyday, we took a train to travel from a city to another. The fare is quite expensive for fast train such as ICE and CE. But it is quite resonable for slower train and we can share a ticket for a group of 5. So the cost can be cut into a fifth is you have a group of 5.


Sleeping at Stanstead airport. I got some motivation to sleep just like that after looking bunches of people sleeping at the airport like this. He he. However I coulnd't sleep very well because it was very noisy and people keep passing by.

Early in the morning, my bag couse some trouble. Alhamdulillah, Fikri managed to fix it.


Just arrived, exicited!
Again, excited taking pictures!!


In Neumberg, the guy in light coloured jacket is Yus, our guide ( he is our host in Neumburg, Studying EE).

On the way to Munich, in Die Bahn.


Interesting. You can hire a bike in Munich. To Seif, your idea to open a business hiring a bike in London is not impossible, as long as you put all safety precaution.


With our guide, G in Sazlburg. Salzburg is a tourist city. According to bro Saif, Sazlburg is well known as one of the biggest ski area in Europe. Salz meand Salt and burg means fort/city (kota).


The scenery form a fort on a Mountain at Salzburg. Beautiful isn't it?
On the way going back to Neumberg. Waiting for the train.
Jaen saying thnks and good bye to Nobi.Our last meal in Nuemberg. Also our official lunch in Nuemberg.


I would like to express my gratidtude to the hosts in Neumberg and Rosenheim for your great hospitality to a stranger (me and Fikri, apart from Roz. He is their college mate) like me. Danke!! May Allah rewards you guys.

Overall, Im very happy and satisfied visiting Germany. Alhamdulillah.

Solat Sunat sblm bermusafir

Assalammualaikum. May this entry find you in the best of health and iman, insha'Allah.

Sempena Easter break ni, mesti ramai yang berjalan2. Rasa esok kiranya kita buat sedikit review pasal solat dan hal2 berkaitan bermusafir ni.

Yang paling utama, mari kita periksa niat kita berjalan2. Adakah untuk berseronok2, melihat tempat orang, nak gi tempat orang dan ambil gambar seterusnya berlagak kat orang, berkenalan dengan orang di tempat lain atau lain2. Sesungguhnya niat kerana Allah itu yang lebih baik. Kerana niat selain kerana Allah tak jadi ibadah. Dan perbuatan yang tak jadi ibadah tu hanyalah sia-sia dan tak dapat jadi bekalan di akhirat kelak.

Secondly, pastikan tujuan kita berjalan2 tidak bertujuan untuk maksiat. Satu, dosa.. Lagi satu, syarat nak solat jamak/qasar adalah musafirnya hendaklah tidak bertujuan maksiat. Kalau tujuan maksiat mmg tak leh solat jamak la...

Rasanya sebelum kita bertolak, eloklah kita kerjakan solat sunat sebelum bermusafir. Caranya mudah sahaja. Dirikan solat sunat dua rakaat dan niatnya "sahaja aku solat sunat musafir 2 rakaat kerana Allah". Selepas solat tu berdolah... Macam biasa....


sumber: http://www.muslimdiary.com/readarticle.php?article_id=457

Kalau ada sebarang kesilapan sila betulkan.
wallua'lam.